Let me start by saying that I have no problem with people who believe abortion is wrong. You are entitled to your opinion and you can even believe each and every woman who gets an abortion is going to hell. That’s totally cool. It becomes a problem when you start to make laws forcing your beliefs on others.
Every law made surrounding abortion seems to be hidden under a guise of good will. Want an abortion? See a doctor and then wait 72 hours. On Monday, I read about some wonderful women who spoke out against this law. She stood up and said she had an opinion, but would like to wait 72 hours to give it so that the senators would know she was serious. While I applaud this protest, we all know that politicians aren’t creating these waiting periods out of concern for anyone. They just want to make it that much harder to access safe abortions.
Every Pro-Life opinion I’ve read and heard seems to be centered around the idea that abortion is the ‘easy way out.’ They reduce women down to whores who choose abortion as their brand of contraception. Please. No one wants to get an abortion. No one expects that they will ever have to make that decision. A huge amount of people seeking abortions are among the most impoverished and/or have at least once child already. They are not taking the easy way out. They are making a difficult decision based upon their needs and the needs of their family.
What Pro-Lifers seem to misunderstand is that most women seek abortions somberly and after much thought. They may be dealing with a poor financial, family or health situation. If a woman has some sort of health condition that complicates her pregnancy, why should anyone but her make the decision to keep or abort? I bet many people would argue that the woman has had her chance at life. Now it’s time to give her fetus a chance. That’s nice. When you get pregnant and then find out you have cancer, feel free to risk your life for your fetus. That’s your decision for your life. Totally okay. It’s NOT okay for you to impose that life changing decision on someone else’s life.
Did you hear about Marlise Munoz, the women, whose wish to be taken off life support was ignored because she was pregnant. My heart broke for that family, who had their grief extended by the law. Even in death, Munoz didn’t have a say over her own body and literally became an incubator for her fetus. She has since been taken off as the fetus isn’t viable. Who would have guessed that a lack of oxygen could hinder the development of a fetus?
People like to say that abortion should be illegal except for these things. That’s shit. You don’t get to decide whether my situation is dire enough to warrant an abortion. You are not living my life, with my family, my income and my health conditions. You will not have to pay for the doctor appointments and prenatal care. You don’t have to do shit besides hold a sign with a bloody fetus condemning me to hell.
At the end of the day, Pro-Lifers who insist on making laws restricting access to safe abortions terrify me. It reminds me of a friend who had an autistic brother. Their family didn’t make much, so they couldn’t always afford to give him the help that would have helped him become a productive member of society. The state would only provide such care if he did something extreme – like hurt himself or someone else. Why does someone have to get hurt before he can have access to health?
Why does a woman have to be raped or at death’s door before she can access a safe abortion?
I welcome people to encourage pregnant woman to avoid abortions. Help them out financially. Donate supplies. Offer to babysit free of charge. Give them support so they know they have nothing to fear. Help them embrace motherhood. For those women whose desire for an abortion is based on more than just fear, let them be. They are not happy about the decision they have to make.
Now that I’ve typed all this, another horror has come into my mind. Can you imagine what it would be like to get pregnant through rape, sit through a trial that finds your rapist not guilty and then be forced to carry your child because they state found your rapist innocent?
Before I leave the topic of a woman’s right to choose, let me share with you this disturbing story about a woman whose was tricked into taking Cytotec and lost her pregnancy. This is, at a minimum, a violation equal to limited access to abortions. Before people start condemning me to hell, I am not promoting that all women terminate their pregnancy. I am promoting the idea that women have the right to choose what happens with their bodies. No religion, government or significant other has the right to take that freedom away.