When I wrote about How to Tell Your Catholic Parents you’re Moving in with your Boyfriend last week, a commenter who disagreed with my decision suggested every relationship, no matter how unique, must go through “standard procedures.” He was respectful in his disagreement and this post is in no way intended to bash or disrespect him. It’s just that his words made me think. Are there indeed standard procedures that every relationship must have and, if so, what are they?
Oh the joys of having well-meaning Catholic parents. I don’t have a problem with religion or parents trying to do what’s best for their child. Yet, every child reaches an age where they start to make their own decisions. Once you become a legal adult, move out of your parents house and experience the world, you may find yourself with opinions different from your parents. Cohabitation is strongly frowned upon in the Catholic church and for some reason the church likes to complain about that more than the number of homeless, sick and suffering. I’m not hear to judge though, I’m here to tell you what happened when I told my parents I was moving in with my boyfriend. Believe me, I Googled for advice when I first made this decision and I would like to add my two cents. Maybe my experience can give you some good ideas on how to tell your Catholic parents you want to move in with your boyfriend.
We all know cohabitation destroys families, right? Clearing a person needs a shiny carbon rock and a scripted set of specific vows to create value and shelter life. All these heathens living without such things can possible be as strong as a Christian, heterosexual family?
There’s exciting news in the world of TK! At the beginning of this year, I said I had a super secret plan. It was secret because it involved me looking for a job in the town my boyfriend works in while he looked for one in mine. We found out real fast that there was nothing for me where he worked, though, and started focusing both our efforts on getting him a job near my place of work. I am proud to announce today that those efforts have been successful! You know what that means? It won’t be too long now that we will move in with each other. I’m thrilled at the prospect, but there’s one dark smudge on that reality. What do I tell my Catholic parents? Honestly, I expect anything from quiet acceptance to disownment. I’m not about to let their opinions dictate mine, though. This is my life! All the same… I have to tell them something and I’d rather not make a bigger deal out of the move than it should be. Continue reading Living the Life I Want, Yet Fearing Parental Reactions